Fuck, I am who I am / Hattie Whiting

Harriet Frances Whiting, age 44.

Hattie is 44, lives in London and works in a media agency. She’s currently single and lives alone in a flat she bought a few years ago. Hattie’s close to her immediate family, but is also lucky enough to have many close friends who are hugely special to her - her self-named ‘friend family’. Hattie’s passion has always been seeking out new experiences. Her love of travel is well documented on Instagram and she’s never happier than airside with her first beer of the holiday. Her trademark feature is a laugh so dirty that drag queens have commented on it.

What makes you laugh?

I'm a sucker for a good pun, audacious behaviour, a silly or dirty joke and observations about the ridiculousness of life.

When did you last cry?

Yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the changes that are happening in our world and, more specifically, how my sociable, adventurous life feels to have reduced thanks to Coronavirus. Failing that, friends being loyal to each other in films always sets me off.

What’s your earliest memory?

Being on a shingle beach in North Norfolk and seeing a dark, powerful seal turn over, slick in the water.

Describe what ‘love’ means to you.

Love is unconditional, enduring, forgiving, kind and generous. It feels like radiating warmth from the inside out. A feeling that there's always plenty to share and give.

What makes you unique to everyone else on this planet?

My energy. I do everything fast - whether it’s rushing from place to place, challenging myself to stay in motion as I commute around London or dashing to the sofa and sitting down heavily. I truly believe that my pace is my greatest strength and simultaneously my greatest weakness!

Name 3 people (living or dead) you’d invite to your virtual quarantine dinner party.

Prince Rogers Nelson, Freddie Mercury, Dame Judi Dench.

Describe yourself in 5 words (this can be a sentence or 5 separate words).

Positive. Energetic. Driven. Happy. Adventurous.

Who or what has made the greatest impact on your life?

My parents. I now realise that their upbringing has given me a deep seated belief in gender equality, long ahead of its time. I was taught that I could do anything. And that has stood me in great stead in many areas of my life: travel, work, DIY! Its only drawback is that I believe it's also made it harder for me to find a male partner who appreciates my fierce independence and desire for equality.

Any regrets?

There's one relationship I should have left two years before I did. But generally, je ne regrette rien!

Tell us something no one knows about you (and I mean no-one)? Until now.

I once stole a decoration from a Christmas tree in church. I put it back later - I even shocked myself!