Fuck, I am who I am / Sasha Damjanovski

Sasha Damjanovski, age 56.

(always wanted a middle name, but no, haven’t got one)

Sasha is a storyteller. Since his childhood in Yugoslavia, through many life’s adventures, including moving to the UK, he has been creating and living stories of love, parenting, friendships, making films, dancing, teaching, coaching, all sorts of adventures and ongoing, insatiable curiosity to learn, do and give more.

What makes you laugh?

Great many things, I laugh a lot. Thinking about it, I probably get the most laughs from the absurdity of us trying to control life. That and life’s little ironies.

When did you last cry?

A few days ago, looking into my lover’s eyes. It was a beautiful moment.

What’s your earliest memory?

Staying with family friends in another town. I made friends with a girl neighbour (roughly my age) and she invited me to the bathroom with her, so we can chat whilst she’s doing a pee. It felt lovely and somehow significant to little 4 year old me.

Describe what ‘love’ means to you.

Compersion - taking pleasure in someone’s joy, success, pleasure. Empowering them to grow and fly. Intimacy, a sense of deep connection, of being truly heard and seen. Holding space for someone, embracing them as they are, for who they are, without judgement. And receiving all of the above, of course.

What makes you unique to everyone else on this planet?

The mixture of everything that makes me ME. Many people are also loving, have the same IQ, height, colour of voice etc, but the precise combination of my mental, emotional, spiritual and physical characteristics is unique. Even if I had a twin, they’d be at least a tiny bit different.

Name 3 people (living or dead) you’d invite to your virtual quarantine dinner party.

Crikey! First thought was Hemingway, Casanova and Frida Kahlo, but a successful dinner party requires not only great people, but great people who would be a good match. So, probably Esther Perell, Alain de Botton and Neil Gaiman.

Describe yourself in 5 words (this can be a sentence or 5 separate words).

Curious dancer embracing joy (and) love.

Who or what has made the greatest impact on your life?

Deeply connecting with good humans, having daughters, moving several cities and later countries. My primary school music teacher who helped me discover classical music (aged 11) and writing my first poem (around the same age).

Any regrets?

Not many. Maybe mistakes I’ve made as a parent. I wish I had more patience with my daughters. (Nothing tragic, luckily.)

Tell us something no one knows about you (and I mean no-one)? Until now.

Ha! If there is such a thing, there must be a bloody good reason nobody knows it.