Fuck, I am who I am / Fanny Gabas

Fanny-Marie Gabas (Oui, Fanny, like Fanny pack and other things), aged 41.

Fanny is single but not too sad about it, has lived in different places like Germany, London, Australia, Tahiti and now Paris - her love. It took her 7 years to realize this is where she wanted to be, with the strikes, Fashion Week, Anne Hidalgo, a few patriarchal bosses, opinionated people but above it all close to her friends and access to good well priced wine and Champagne. In her career, she has worked as a nanny, but also in events, Corp Com, Media & Governmental Relations, for the French, the Koreans, Russians and now the Americans. And non, she is not a spy.

What makes you laugh?

You & Lynda make me laugh! Also, Paul Taylor makes me laugh so hard (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCd56yga015uI5hfOfnXdzCQ). I love stand up and I’m not against some good “dark” / “un-ethical” jokes sometimes, the things kids naturally say, that would be rude or uncomfortable for an adult to express… but so true!!! That really cracks me up. Penguins & animals video as well, sometimes, are funny.

When did you last cry?

On Monday – I just needed it. We started the third week of confinement and I’m frustrated. So I needed a good cry.

What’s your earliest memory?

That’s a hard one because as a baby, I don’t remember much. But I do remember a few moments with my Pappy, my mum's father, who was an amazing grand-father. He was my best friend, who I spend holidays with each year. He would do things with us a 100 times just because it would make us happy: like talk to the neighbour’s parrot on the way to the supermarket, EACH TIME. Or he would make us baked bread with melting salty butter on it every-single-breakfast. That was love, just love.

Describe what ‘love’ means to you.

There are many kinds of love, all worth having, living, sharing. I have my people – “my tribe” - and you are part of it. I love my friends, my god daughters – so much - but I don’t love them the same way I love my partner. Because for me, who can be pragmatic, love and body attraction matters for a couple. Without sex, you are dating your best friend. Doesn’t mean there is no love, just not the right kind of love I want for a “love life” lol. But at the core of all those different loves, I think there are some key shared values: respect, loyalty and honesty even when it hurts, solidarity, care, self-responsibilities towards actions, emotional connection.

What makes you unique to everyone else on this planet?

And every journey is unique, that’s why we are all different. I think my parent’s education from when I was born and my life experience – whether I reject it or embrace it - is what makes me ME. I think therapy helped me agree with both good and bad sides of me, which is not very common in a French person, because French society is driven by etiquette, education, expectations and standards, denial of being wrong. Failure is not an option somehow, and society needs to change that behaviour. I actually think this COVID-19 will change that pattern as it exposes ALL of our failures and it hurts.

So: I live, I learn, and my ability to adjust to situations and make tough decisions, or accept failure and bounce back, while drinking champagne and wearing red lipstick, is what makes me unique.

Name 3 people (living or dead) you’d invite to your virtual quarantine dinner party.

My friend Maria, Bob Sinclar ( because we need to move our butts) and the founder of Veuve Cliquot … with boxes of his best product!

Describe yourself in 5 words (this can be a sentence or 5 separate words).

Caring, Loyal but spiteful / Resentful if you hurt me, full of Energy, Elegant.

Who or what has made the greatest impact on your life?

Living 4 years in London shaped my life, from the world I discovered, the language I learned, the cultures I met, the people who are in my life since - just a huge door to the world I love.

Any regrets?

Logistics - I wish I have learned about finances early, to spend my money in flats, invested my money instead of just spending it! And also: I wish I had a mentor from a young age. Because what I would say to my younger self is: “bullshit your way through, all men do it and look where they are now.”

Tell us something no one knows about you (and I mean no-one)? Until now.

I have Nelly Furtado in my playlist. I know it’s wrong but I do! Lol and I did steal a few good pairs of shoes in my student years. I would leave the old pair in the box and walk out with the one; I was so broke!